Ep 2: Of Course It Is — Anger, Marriage, and Breaking the Cycle

What happens when a full day of small frustrations — bad traffic, a stolen phone moment at the Korean market, a valet, and a gummy bear bag — leads to a blowup you didn't see coming? This week I'm talking about anger. My anger. Where it really comes from, what it did to my marriage last weekend, and what I'm trying to do about it. In this episode of I Took the Long Way, I walk through a Saturday that started at 3:30pm in LA traffic and ended with me raising my voice at my wife over a gummy bear bag at 10 o'clock at night. And the next morning, I sat alone in a pew and asked God for wisdom — right before my pastor preached an entire sermon on anger. Of course he did. We talk about: Why small criticisms stack up and how they lead to blowups bigger than the moment warrants Growing up in a home where anger was explosive and scary — and how that wiring follows you into your marriage and your parenting What a real apology actually looks like versus "sorry you felt that way" The pastor's point that stayed with me: the person who caused the wound is the one who has to move first What it means to break a generational pattern — and whether deciding to be different is actually enough This one got personal. If you grew up around anger that was never modeled in a healthy way, or if you've ever reacted bigger than the situation warranted and wondered where that came from — this episode is for you. I Took the Long Way is a podcast about life, detours, bad decisions, and somehow still being here to talk about it.